I have a lot of thoughts and feelings for the day. Many I’m sure that certain people wouldn’t like. So I am just going to share an email I received today.
I do want to thank Lauren Book, for all she does and for showing me the courage to be able to talk about it.
“Your story is the perfect example of why we need to change the laws to allow time for victims to find the courage to deal with their abuse and come forward. You are so right that seeking help and talking about abuse is the key to healing and preventing more victims.
Thank you for sharing and becoming part of the RISE community.
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Subject: Share Your Story Submission
From: Share Your Story Submission
Date: Sat, April 27, 2013 11:26 am
First Name – Lisa
Last Name – Valkenaar
Your Email –
Location – Florida
Post Title – Damaged child
Your Story – I am almost 50 and am just recently learning how to deal with my abuse and how to be a survivor. I was abused by my brother at a young age. He is 10 years older than me so my parents would let him babysit me. I’m not really sure of the time frame, but I do know that it was before I was 10. We (he) did get caught by my mother, and that was what put an end to it. To the best of my knowledge he never received any help, and I know that I didn’t. It was never even discussed. My parents died when I was 14/15, so I never had the chance to learn anything about it after I began acknowledging it. I had a hard time, did some bad things; drugs, drinking, and subsequently was disowned by the rest of my surviving family. That includes my brother, his wife, my aunt and uncle who finished “raising” me, and my grandmother. My brother went on to sexually abuse his daughter and to behave in all kinds if deviant sexual behaviors. Luckily she did get help and is much better adjusted than myself. She is 34 now. My point in story is that it is of the utmost importance to talk and educate about this. It should not be a silent secret. So much potential damage to the child may be avoided if help is sought quickly. Lawmakers need to address this issue and change laws. Don’t be afraid to speak out.
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